Survivor shares message of strength: Domestic violence is preventable

Survivor shares message of strength: Domestic violence is preventable

Lace up for the Refuse to Abuse 5k, July 21 at Safeco Stadium

As a 19-year-old single mom of a young son, Julia heard repeatedly that she was “limiting herself” and would “never find a husband.” With those messages taken to heart, when she met a man who seemed relationship material, she embraced the opportunity.

What that meant was an isolated home in rural Washington with a man whose personality quickly changed once they were away from her family and friends. After “28 days of hell,” Julia had the personal strength and family support to free herself from the situation. Once he began turning his anger toward her son, “I knew I had to get out, and had to get out right away,” she says.

“When he went to work the next morning, I packed up everything I could carry and walked the 45 minutes to call my sister.”

Refuse To Abuse

Through the healing that followed, Julia committed herself to supporting others in similar situations and preventing domestic violence, through events like July 21’s Refuse To Abuse 5k, a joint event from the Seattle Mariners and the Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

“This is how I can give back for the support I received from family, friends and my community,” Julia reflects, sharing a message of strength with women and men who might find themselves in a similar situation. “It’s important to build a sense of self-worth. You don’t need someone ‘to complete you,’ as the movie says. It’s OK to be who you are.”

Today, Julia is a happy, healthy grandmother of four amazing grandchildren. Looking forward to her sixth annual Refuse To Abuse 5K – a unique run/walk through every level of Safeco Field, from the players’ tunnel to the final lap around the field – Julia aims to raise $5,000 to support the Coalition’s work to engage teens and young people about healthy relationships, promote better laws, and create programming for survivors of abuse.

Alongside fundraising – Julia was third in individual fundraising last year! – she reflects on connections that happen each year.

“You’re at this event with people sharing their experiences – it’s part of the healing. It’s powerful,” she says, commending WSCADV for providing information and resources supporting a world without domestic violence, and tools to speak with children, grandchildren, nieces and nephews about healthy relationships.

Domestic Violence is Preventable

“The more people talk about domestic violence, the more we’ll share the message that it is preventable,” says Kelly Starr, WSCADV Director of Public Affairs, noting that 43 per cent of Washington women and 28 per cent of men have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner.

To find the domestic violence program in your community, visit wscadv.org or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800- 787-3224 (TTY).

Register today for the Refuse To Abuse 5K at refusetoabuse5k.org.


Talk to us

Please share your story tips by emailing editor@covingtonreporter.com.

To share your opinion for publication, submit a letter through our website https://www.covingtonreporter.com/submit-letter/. Include your name, address and daytime phone number. (We’ll only publish your name and hometown.) Please keep letters to 300 words or less.

Survivor shares message of strength: Domestic violence is preventable
Survivor shares message of strength: Domestic violence is preventable

More in Marketplace

In-person or online, you can safely shop and take out from businesses right here in King County, including Quarterdeck in Des Moines.
Stay local, shop local and be a part of the recovery

Staycation opportunities abound in King County

Derek (left) and Marshall from the Big Brothers Big Sisters of Puget Sound, on an outing last year. The mentorship program came to the Enumclaw Plateau region for the first time in 2019.
Local mentorship helps both ‘Bigs’ and ‘Littles’ find joy in hard times

Online UNO, digital princess dress-up and other virtual fun in Enumclaw Plateau program’s pilot year

In-person or online, you can safely shop and take out from businesses right here in King County, including Quarterdeck in Des Moines.
Stay local, shop local and be a part of the recovery

Staycation opportunities abound in King County

More than ever, people are embracing staycations as a way to get out of the house safely and enjoy the best our region has to offer. Businesses like The Mint in Enumclaw have adapted to serve patrons safely, providing takeout for those wanting to enjoy their favorite flavors at home.
Sensational staycations start right here!

Mask up, support a local business, and be a part of the recovery

Comcast Corporation has launched the Comcast RISE program to help strengthen and empower Black, Indigenous, and People of Color (BIPOC)-owned small businesses hard hit by COVID-19.
Covington small businesses with diverse owners may now apply for support from Comcast RISE

Get marketing consultations, media placements, commercial creative production or technology services

More than 30 different community hubs in Washington state will be equipped with WiFi-connected “Lift Zones” over the next few months to help students get online, participate in distance learning, and do their homework.
Comcast Lift Zones to help to bridge the digital divide for ‘at-risk’ students in Washington

Comcast launches 30 WiFi-connected “Lift Zones” in Washington, including 10+ locations in King County

With Reber Ranch’s seven full-service dog wash bays, why wash the dog at home when you can leave the mess to them?
If you have pets, it’s time to re-discover this one-stop-shop!

Your go-to choice for all your animal needs is Reber Ranch

Sweaty, mindful, heart-pounding community building
Sweaty, mindful, heart-pounding community building

Covington alum comes home, and builds her favorite fitness studio

Got your back: Tech innovations bring patients the highest standard of chiropractic care
Got your back: Tech innovations bring patients the highest standard of chiropractic care

From ‘party hats’ to powerful diagnostic technology…what to expect from a visit to the chiropractor

Find beauty right in your garden this spring!
Find beauty right in your garden this spring!

With contactless delivery options, Cedar Grove helps you get in your garden this spring

While people may be staying closer to home right now, nutritious and delicious meals are as close as Gourmet Meals to Go, delivered right to your door.
5 simple steps gets custom, restaurant-quality cuisine to your door!

We might not be dining out much right now, but that doesn’t… Continue reading

Discover 6 beautiful botanical spaces in this garden paradise
Discover 6 beautiful botanical spaces in this garden paradise

We know the Pacific Northwest is a gardener’s – and garden lover’s… Continue reading